Excerpted from a channeling for Randi, dated 4/6/14
Relationships seem to humans like they are two separate people existing side-by-side, and all the self-help books will tell you so, but you know they are a reflection of your and your partner’s beliefs. You create each other. So rather than be disappointed in what you are getting, change it.
Know what you want and be that.
As you see, when we say this to you, you feel pain. That pain is your belief system that perpetuates what you now have. That pain is heal-able. That pain is the root cause of today’s situation. That pain, that says I am alone/lonely/unloved/unwelcome, is old. Can you imagine that your husband feels the same way, so is creating the same thing? So then you feel the same way, and then he feels the same way, and so on and so on and so on.
Is it fair that you should be the one to make the first move? Is it only you that has to change? No, but we have been giving you the message today that you are more ready, you understand more, you are more willing even, to try something different.
Release your wound to Us. We gratefully receive this energy. Human beings consciously choosing to transmute their pain makes it all the more powerful. We receive these darker energies and transmute them into something much lighter… first to neutral and then to Light. They are fed back into the system of Light, as if recycled. That energy then has learned from the experience and is on it’s way to becoming Matter. So you see, your pain has it’s own consciousness, perhaps as a thoughtform, and it is a learning as well.
It is easy, but only if you are 100% ready to believe something new. Often for you (and other humans), the pain is a familiar friend and so there is much resistance to letting it go. When you are ready, we will easily take it from you.
We find this an interesting part of your culture as humans. You identify with the drama of hurt, and it seems to help you feel more alive. It has been the case of a millennium that it was so difficult to feel the Light, that the only way to feel much of anything was via the Dark. That is changing… has been rapidly changing for decades now… and you are now able to have an alternative to the Dark. It’s the range of emotion that runs from Contentment to Happiness to Joy.
Make your decisions based on what you want, not what you believe you have. You are not a victim of your life! You have been programmed to believe you are powerless and that you must succumb to what happens to you. That is unfortunate, because your lives could be bigger, more expansive, and fuller if you knew that you are part of a great web of creative life force, and you have been given the consciousness necessary to manipulate that life force and change it, mold it into your very own masterpiece.
It takes desire, imagination and time. Pick your ingredients, stir and blend and bake and Voila! Your masterpiece. The ingredient that gets in the way is Attachment. Attachment is a relative of Fear. It is a lack of trust that the best outcome is at hand. Attachment is NOT the same as desire. Desire is pure of heart and Light, it comes from a Soul’s yearning.Attachment is ego-based and ego-driven and has to do with Lack.
So create your desire in mind, word and see it clearly and know it’s yours and know it so much that you believe it before you receive it. From up here it is obvious. Please trust Us because we see so much more Light than you do in your human form. But we Know you and We Love you and We care about your Heart.