Question: We talked in the last book (4th-Dimensional Healing) about the detriment of holding onto toxic thoughts and feelings. Can you go more into depth about that?
Answer: The conscious mind is built to reason and reflect and take appropriate action as needed. But it is your subconscious mind that rules most of your decisions. The subconscious is the totality of all of you– your past, your family’s past (your heritage, genetic lineage, epigenetics), and your experiences over lifetimes. Your subconscious mind holds an intelligence of safety that spans lifetimes.
Unresolved feelings, memories, beliefs about life and beliefs about death, are ever present even when you are not consciously aware of them. They help create the fabric of who you are as an individual. But you are also ever-pliable — made to change, grow and improve. You have the ability to uncover the subconscious mind’s conclusions, and release obsolete ideas and choose new ones.
Toxic thoughts and feelings cause you pain, even when you truly believe them to be true. They eat away at you, causing you to age and lose vitality. They lower your vibration, diminishing the Light you emanate into the world.
Your feelings are your humanness. Honoring and processing hurt, anger, resentment, etc., and taking into account what is yours and what it the other person’s, is the first part of any process. Over time you choose what you want to live with and what you don’t. Time offers the maturity and experience necessary to reevaluate your thoughts and beliefs.
Physical discomfort or illness can highlight subconscious feelings and beliefs. These are optimal opportunities to delve more deeply into what is held energetically, physically and metaphysically. When yo sees all discomfort as self-imposed, you can take responsibility for investigating and exposing the internal sources.
Healing the mind and body requires you to restructure, re-pattern and, finally, forgive.
Restructure: Change a framework or erasing the thought. Choose a new way to perceive or believe. Use the experiences you have built over time to reframe beliefs developed by your less mature mind or less developed soul.
Re-pattern: Clear out old energy, break up energetic patterns using physical and energetic therapies. (These may include acupuncture, yoga, massage, physical therapy, somatic therapy, Reiki, EMDR, craniosacral therapy, etc.) Develop new stories and ways of using words to describe past situations and events. This will have a direct effect on how you feel.
Forgiveness: This is the ultimate change agent, no matter whether you are forgiving yourself or someone else. Forgiveness comes from understanding and compassion. Ultimately it is the way of freeing yourself from the confines of negativity or toxicity.
You may forgive yourself by recognizing that you have a new understanding based on more information and experience. You may recognize that your intentions were never to harm, even though you harmed yourself in the end. This requires humility– a diminishing of the ego– and self-honesty.
You may forgive others by recognizing the same– all human beings are fallible, succumbing to their own fears and misguided intentions. People who act out violently, or even evilly, are often so far removed from their true humanity as to have no connection to their actions and the subsequent consequences. They are “out of their minds”. Forgiveness comes when one recognizes there is no benefit to holding onto the memories or allowing them to shape one’s life. And true complete forgiveness comes when you remember that, on the soul level, no one is a victim. There is always a higher-level agreement. Instead, use all experiences as opportunities to evolve with compassion.
Forgiveness is what you do for yourself, not for the other person. Forgiveness is when you know you are ready to stop holding onto those feelings. Forgiveness comes when you are ready to heal. Forgiveness is your release.