I want to confess something to you: I’ve been deepening my connection to my Higher self —that part of me that is my connection to Divinity.
It is my belief that we are beings of God, and that this beingness lives on in our cells and DNA. The most important task we have in this (or any) lifetime is to control the ego and connect as much as possible to our own sense of Divinity, and what that means to each of us.
Here are three steps towards making that connection:
Recognize your story;
Release your story;
Sit in the energy of Surrender.
To being with, it is important to understand that we each live in our own story. This story incorporates the things that have happened to us that have shaped the way we protect our hearts and the steps we do and don’t make in our lives. I read an interview once about a Buddhist monk who had been imprisoned and tortured for many years. He said he moved past his trauma by repeating his story over and over again, until it no longer had any impact on him… it no longer felt like it was about him. It was just a story.
Know your story so well… tell it as many times as you need to… until you feel unattached to it. Yes, tragic things happened. Yes, you were hurt, betrayed and broken. All of that needs to be honored, understood and held in compassion. It has made you who you are today.
And yet, at some point, it is important to move beyond that.
One powerful way that I have found to redirect toxic memories and emotions of trauma has been to bathe myself in the energy of Surrender. I know that, for some, this idea can be rather abstract, but hear me out.
Surrender is about letting go of what you want to change. Surrender is about relinquishing the desire to control people and situations. Surrender creates the state of allowing. Allowing is like the Buddhist saying: “Be in the world and not of it.” That means watch and listen, but don’t get too caught up in the illusion.
Here is the practice: What does surrender feel like to you? What does it look like? What would you do or say if you surrendered all of your worry, fear, anger, resentment, etc.? Use your imagination to create this sensory perception. Once you have the imagery of it, bathe in that sensation. Sit in this energy for at least ten minutes once or twice a day.
Surrendering the need to have things different brings us so much closer to Divinity (your Higher self) and so much farther away from drama unfolding around us.
And even if you want to change the drama you see, why stay attached to that stress? The change you desire may actually come more easily from being different, rather than doing different.