We have the power to choose our thoughts. This is so important because thoughts are electromagnetic charges that clarify to the universe how we want to express ourselves in this incarnation. We are here to express ourselves creatively. That is the ultimate purpose for being. And we live in a world of free will — that is, there are an infinite number of possibilities of how to live and look and act and dress and speak and… Be. Prior to incarnation, each person choses all of this in order to have the specific experiences one needs for one’s own soul growth.
Over the course of human life on this planet, free will has been tamped down by Judgment. Judgment says, “You and I cannot both be right. One of us is more right.” Life experiences teach us to form opinions about ourselves and the world around us. Opinions come from our personal preferences and are, therefore, results of our personalities. Judgments, on the other hand, stem from a fundamental fear, the fear that we are separate from each other and from the Divine.
Diane is a successful businessperson. She functions well at work, has received many promotions and is running her own division. But Diane has a form of social anxiety. That is, after she attends any kind of group event, such as a party, book club or other social gathering, she begins second guessing herself. She chastises herself for what she said, how she spoke or what she was wearing. She dreads the thought of the next social function.
Diane’s thoughts turn on her, but in essence they do so in an attempt to keep her safe. Her mind was trained at an early age to be wary in social settings and so, in a misguided attempt to help her, her mind warns her that she is putting herself at risk.
The mind is a composite of everything we have ever experienced in this lifetime. It consists of parts that are positive, successful and supportive. It also consists of parts that criticize, victimize and condemn. All of us have this dichotomy existing within, sometimes more consciously aware of it than we are at other times.
Our mind seems built to form judgments, and in fact, does so in a misguided attempt to keep us safe. Discerning the appropriateness of our actions, words and appearance helps us feel accepted socially, which, in part, leads to our survival in society.